
Originally Posted by
Andi
Hi, there,
I'm so glad to have found these fora, I have been searching for parents' experiences with their children who have craniosynostosis syndromes, and especially syndromes like mine, Saethre-Chotzen. I'm 31 years old, married, but I have no kids -- we're working on that last part right now, which is what brings me here.
I have known all my life that with each pregnancy I had I would have a 50% chance of passing my syndrome on to my kids. What did this mean to me? I had surgery when I was a little over 2 years old, and those are my first memories. It was a very traumatic experience. The techniques were different then, and I still have a funky bump on the top of my head, but all things considered my facial assymetry is mild and all my other funky features (short fingers with a little webbing, imperfect hearing, one eye that turns in a little) haven't held me back. I live a very healthy life, I am an educated, successful professional and I am currently pursuing my PhD. So... still, what would this mean if I passed on my syndrome to my kids? Would I be bringing a child into the world who would have to go through as much early suffering as I did? If I could keep it from happening, would I? If so, to what lengths would I go through? There is the option of doing preimplantation genetic testing (PGD) with IVF to select embryos without the syndrome, and we are looking into this. But is that going too far?
I'm hoping to find parents with any of these syndromes, who have wrestled with the decision to have kids knowing that you would pass the syndrome on. What led you to the decision you made? I know that all of these children are wonderful gifts, and I do not at all want anyone to think I would advocate their being extinguished in favor of some kind of genetic "perfection" -- so please understand where I am coming from, as I have this syndrome myself and I love myself and my life -- and I am grateful for what my parents did for me when I was a child. I just know that if I knew I could prevent my kid's suffering, I would do it. But, again, how far do we go?
Thank you, I hope this question will be received in the sincere way I pose it.
Peace,
Andi