There was a GREAT thread I read before Q went for surgery and I can't find it now...It was SO helpful in getting me mentally, physically and emotionally ready for his surgery.
So...I think we should start a new thread for all those anxiously waiting surgery...here goes.
"What I wish I would have known before surgery""
~No matter HOW many photos I see of other swollen babies it is totally different seeing MY baby swollen like that! Even though I had been told this many times, I did not believe it and thought I was prepared. BELIEVE IT...IT IS TRUE!!
~Don't over pack...I lugged a million shirts with me b/c I was afraid that Quintin would puke a lot. He never puked and I only used 4 of the 15 shirts I packed!!
~Handing Quintin over WAS NOT the hardest thing to do (as I though it was going to be) WAITING for surgery was actually the hardest part. I was relieved to hand him over and get it done with!
~I didn't realize how tough it was to have Quintin's eyes shut for 3 days. All the photos I see of babies with their eyes swollen shut make them look so "peacefull" when actually they are SO frusterated. I learned to use my voice all the time and to constantly talk to Quintin so he could hear where I was at all times since he could not see me.
~I just happened to have Amy's phone number with me (little Camden's mom)...who had surgery at the same place with Dr. Fearon 5 weeks prior. It was so nice to be able to call her during surgery to confirm if all of my feelings were normal and to ask questions. Try to have one or two craniomom's phone numbers with you. I will offer mine to anyone who wants it...just send me a PM.
~I also did not realize how "jumpy" Quintin would be for a week or so after surgery. He basically had to regain trust in us that he wouldn't be hurt anymore. He had been poked and prodded and had IV's flushed and ripped out for 3 days all while his eyes were swollen shut. Therefore, he never knew if the next touch was going to be a good one or a painfull one since he could not see. Even after his eyes opened, he wuld fuss with the slightest touch...even changing diapers. But, a week of very gentle handling reassured that the pain was over!!
~Yes...it IS normal to think, "Man...am I ever going to have "my baby" back???" and yes...you will!!! I promise!!
~Yes..it IS normal to think that perhaps the operation was a mistake right after surgery...and maybe into the first post-op weeks. I promise...you will change your mind and it is worth it!!
~I never knew HOW GOOD that first peek would feel once I looked down and saw Quinny's beautiful eyes looking back at me...then the first smile happened shortly after.
OK- now all of you mommy's on the other side, please share what you wished you would have known before surgery!