miriam's surgery

[mom2mykidos3]

October 6th is the day of Miriam's surgery. We are trying to still get ahold of the NS, but my PS's nurse said that it really doesn't matter because the NS will be whoever will be there on the 6th.

[Jennifer]

I'm glad you got a date! I'll add it to the calendar!

[KALEMSMOM]

Glad to hear you got a date as well. It's the waiting that's the hardest but trust me it goes by quicker then you can possibly imagine. How are you holding up?

[mom2mykidos3]

I am doing ok. I am starting to get sick to my stomach when I think about it. I have a hard time thinking it will all be fixed so easily. I am sure that during the surgery I will be a mess. I just think something is going to happen. I am sure I am just being crazy.
In some ways it is nice to have the date and in others it is more nerve racking. I have just a whole lot of new things to worry about. I love to see and know that there are so many kids doing so great.

[snickers9246]

The worst part is the waiting!! Be strong Mama, she'll do great!! We're here if you need to cry on someone's shoulder!!

[ahope4us]

I'll be thinking of you both! I just know she'll do well.
Danielle

[mom2mykidos3]

My mom and I were talking about this web site tonight. Actually talking about how my husband thinks I am crazy. He says I am always on here, but he doesn't understand that you guys are my support.
I just want to give a big thanks to all you ladies. I haven't met any of you and I feel that you are my best friends. I wish I had a chance to meet you in person. I can't even start to say how much all of this has helped me.
Every night I thank the Lord for giving me the technology to have to talk to all of you. I wouldn't be holding up as well as I am with out you.
Thanks again. You are wonderful!!!!:hugg

[craniomommynbaby]

Miriam, it seems that on average, the mommies need the online support while the daddies keep it bottled up inside. (I say on average, because daddies like Doug prove me wrong. :) )
I know my husband did not see a point to worrying about it (so he said). He figured that whatever research I did would get shared with him anyhow. So, he went and played video games. Now, I know him better than almost anyone, and I could tell how stressed he was about it. He just showed it differently. What he said and what he felt were two different things. I think he got less sleep the night before the surgery than I did.
Women, on average, do deal with things more verbally than men. Some research studies think that is why women tend to outlive their male mates. We tend to build networks and rely on them from an early age, and that really helps us to keep our health and stress in line.

[laurensmom]

Miriam, I was in your same boat. My husband told me I was obsessed with this site but I tried to explain that I needed everyone to keep me sane and going strong. I was a mess when I got our news and this site is the only thing that made me feel okay. Everyone kept saying they couldn't imagine what I was going through or they understood but having people to talk to that went through this experience was the only thing that helped and made me feel better. Please feel free to ask me anything or share your concerns, however small or big they may seem. We are here for you! You will be in my prayers!

Denise

[Matthews Mommy]

I had the same problem with my husband as well but men don't like to show their sensitive side too much, you will see the difference on that day. Surgery day was the first time I really saw my husband cry, and then I realized he was concerned and worried he just did not know how to deal with it the way I was. Everyone has their own way of doing things and dealing with stress, worries etc. It will all work out and I am so glad you finally have your surgery day, it feels better knowing when it will happen then being in limbo. I will pray for you.

[joanna galang]

Your baby will be in my prayers. You are lucky to have this group before surgery while i happened to encounter them post-surgery but it helped a lot. Take care!

[snickers9246]

OMG!! how funny our husbands are all the same eh?? Just the way they dealw ith things I guess. My husband said he felt he couldn't even talkt o me because I was always onthe site and I was "working myself up for nothing" Then we were told she had it and needed surgery. Only then did he peek over my shoulder and see some before and after pics. I felt he needed to see them, the surgery pics etc. to prepare himself cause he'd completely put the blinders on. In the long run, it helped us both, the support I got from here dealing with her surgery and him! :adore You're little one will do fine!! Her surgery is a day after Holly's 1 year post op anniversary! Holly had her surgery Oct 5th last year. Good sign!