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Lori
03-21-2007, 12:05 PM
Upon first learning my grandson has sagittal cranio, I was compelled to find an answer to the question of genetics. This was overcome with the issue of cosmetics. Each child and situation is different.
After dealing with a skilled surgeon with no interaction sklls and does not understand the social implications of the issue on the parents or the children, my son and I both agree we do not need to consult on the issue of genetics. With him and now his son, even if they told me there was no connection I wouldn't beleive them. It is obvious to us there is. This will not stop them from having more children in the future. My son was in surgery for over 3 hours at 3 weeks of age. After all those years I am rewarded thousands of times over. I have heard the issues of over active children... I know this too well. It goes on to the blair witch phone calls, out of breath giving locations, or the phone calls... hi mom, I'm in Mexico! Oh sure I can laugh now because we all survived! (My daughter however would ground herself then tell me what she did!) Many others called me mom too...
The trick is to never give up. I went from knowing nothing, to being a skilled medical tech., to gang intervention and crisis intervention counselor, running companies caring for our elderly and now I am a grandmother. I look at the future of my son and already it is lookig really good. I look at the mothers of this site and what a difference they make, it is the power of unconditional love.
Jon Jr.s surgery is on the 29th.

Matthews Mommy
03-21-2007, 12:14 PM
that is beautiful Lori, thanks and heres to you :wave2 .

Jennifer
03-21-2007, 12:44 PM
Thanks! Jon Jr will be in our prayers!

sarahanne
03-21-2007, 05:00 PM
That's beautiful, Lori.

Sarah

mom2mykidos3
03-21-2007, 09:07 PM
Wishing little Jon the best on the 29th. You are such a wonderful lady. Thanks for the kind words.

Addy
03-22-2007, 02:05 PM
Lori That brought tears to my eyes and it's funny because I was going over this in my own mind....
When I first found out there might be an issue with Ethan's head shape I went through many emotions and asking why if we go through this much pain and worry should we have children? It was only after the weeks of wait and not knowing the outcome that it was answered for me-'unconditional love' as you so beautifully stated. I also grew in the way that I realize this wasn't about me and my feelings, but first and foremost the children. Sure our feelings matter, but I was getting so caught up in how unfair this was having to go through this and why me that I realized that when you have children you are in it for the longhaul, good or bad and that the pain and worry that goes along with that is part of the package, but there is another side to it all-it makes you appreciate the happy times that much more and you start to reaize what really matters-your children and everything you can do for them to make them happy/healthy.
You summed it up so nicely Lori and your family are very lucky to have you in their lives! I'll keep Jon Jr. in my prayers and the 29th in my mind. God bless (((Hugs)))